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The scriptures. May God bless the reading of His holy word.
The men of Israel had taken an oath at Mizpah: "Not one of us will give his daughter in marriage to a Benjamite."
The people went to Bethel, where they sat before God until evening, raising their voices and weeping bitterly. "O Lord, the God of Israel," they cried, "why has this happened to Israel? Why should one tribe be missing from Israel today?"
Early the next day, the people built an altar and presented burnt offerings and fellowship offerings.
Then the Israelites asked, "Who from all the tribes of Israel has failed to assemble before the Lord ?" For they had taken a solemn oath that anyone who failed to assemble before the Lord at Mizpah should certainly be put to death.
Now the Israelites grieved for their brothers, the Benjamites. "Today one tribe is cut off from Israel," they said. "How can we provide wives for those who are left, since we have taken an oath by the Lord not to give them any of our daughters in marriage?" Then they asked, "Which one of the tribes of Israel failed to assemble before the Lord at Mizpah?" They discovered that no one from Jabesh Gilead had come to the camp for the assembly. For when they counted the people, they found that none of the people of Jabesh Gilead were there.
So the assembly sent twelve thousand fighting men with instructions to go to Jabesh Gilead and put to the sword those living there, including the women and children. "This is what you are to do," they said. "Kill every male and every woman who is not a virgin." They found among the people living in Jabesh Gilead four hundred young women who had never slept with a man, and they took them to the camp at Shiloh in Canaan.
Then the whole assembly sent an offer of peace to the Benjamites at the rock of Rimmon. So the Benjamites returned at that time and were given the women of Jabesh Gilead who had been spared. But there were not enough for all of them.
The people grieved for Benjamin, because the Lord had made a gap in the tribes of Israel. And the elders of the assembly said, "With the women of Benjamin destroyed, how shall we provide wives for the men who are left? The Benjamite survivors must have heirs," they said, "so that a tribe of Israel will not be wiped out. We can't give them our daughters as wives, since we Israelites have taken this oath: 'Cursed be anyone who gives a wife to a Benjamite.' But look, there is the annual festival of the Lord in Shiloh, to the north of Bethel, and east of the road that goes from Bethel to Shechem, and to the south of Lebonah."
So they instructed the Benjamites, saying, "Go and hide in the vineyards and watch. When the girls of Shiloh come out to join in the dancing, then rush from the vineyards and each of you seize a wife from the girls of Shiloh and go to the land of Benjamin. When their fathers or brothers complain to us, we will say to them, 'Do us a kindness by helping them, because we did not get wives for them during the war, and you are innocent, since you did not give your daughters to them.'"
So that is what the Benjamites did. While the girls were dancing, each man caught one and carried her off to be his wife. Then they returned to their inheritance and rebuilt the towns and settled in them.
At that time, the Israelites left that place and went home to their tribes and clans, each to his own inheritance.
In those days, Israel had no king; everyone did as he saw fit.
Judges 21
This ends our reading from God's holy word. Thanks be to God.
As Judges, chapter 20 came to a close, we saw the aftermath of a bloody civil war between the Israelites and one of their own, the tribe of Benjamin. You’ll remember that there great losses on both sides, more so for the Benjamites as all their women were killed in the battle leaving the remaining men with no one to marry. This would essentially mean tribal extinction as there would be no children to form the next generation. As we move to chapter 21, we see this legitimate concern being addressed.
For we see in our scripture passage where the Israelite people are despondent after the war for their men had taken an oath at Mizpah to never give a daughter in marriage to a Benjamite. With the tribe now having no women, we read where the “people went to Bethel” and “sat before God until evening, raising their voices and weeping bitterly, saying:
“O Lord, the God of Israel, why has this happened to Israel? Why should one tribe be missing from Israel today?"
They then “built an altar and presented burnt offerings and fellowship offerings” the next day, continuing to grieve and cry out to God with this:
“Today one tribe is cut off from Israel…How can we provide wives for those who are left, since we have taken an oath by the Lord not to give them any of our daughters in marriage?"
The situation was a sticky one, no doubt, but it’s very interesting that we first saw the Israelites bent on destroying the people of Benjamin only to now be so concerned about the tribe’s survival. This highlighted just how dysfunctional the nation of Israel became as they did what they saw fit…and unfortunately this would only be the beginning.
In thinking about this in terms of present times, I couldn’t help but see just how dysfunctional families can be as well. In fact, there are probably very few families out there who aren’t dealing with internal issues of some kind, some worse than others. I know mine has qualified.
What we discover within this is that there is always ample space for prayer within any family framework…prayers for peace and reconciliation and cooperation and, of course, love.
Well, Israel obviously thought about the matter at hand after the war with the tribe of Benjamin and arrived at a viable solution. They would go after a tribe who “failed to assemble before the Lord” for there had been a “solemn oath” taken that “anyone who failed to assemble before the Lord at Mizpah should certainly be put to death”. And after inquiring about what tribe failed to assemble before the Lord, the Israelites “discovered that no one from Jabesh Gilead had come to the camp for the assembly”.
This led the Israelite assembly to send “twelve thousand fighting men with instructions to go to Jabesh Gilead and put to the sword those living there, including the women and children”. All were to be killed except for the virgin women.
Why?
Because those virgin women would be given to the Benjamite men so that they could produce offspring that would ensure tribal survival.
And so we read where the Israelites went against Jabesh Gilead and carried out their obligation under the solemn oath, imposing the death penalty for failing to assemble before the Lord at Mizpah. During the raid, the Israelites found “four hundred young women who had never slept with a man” and “took them to the camp at Shiloh in Canaan”.
Now, we should note that the Benjamites were completely unaware of what their fellow Israelites were doing. And so after acquiring the virgin women from Jabesh Gilead, the “whole assembly sent an offer of peace to the Benjamites at the rock of Rimmon”, leading to the Benjamites returning. They were then given the virgin women “who had been spared”.
In the end translation, seeds of reconciliation had been sown and it appeared the family of Israel was back on proper terms with one another. But there was still one problem that remained. For the four hundred virgin women from Jabesh Gilead were less than what was needed to provide each Benjamite man with a wife.
And so we find the Israelites return to their grieving, still deeply distressed that all the Benjamites would not have heirs. This problem was further exasperated because the Israelites couldn’t give up their own daughters because they had taken the oath not to do so. A second plan was needed to fix the problem and this plan came together as the “annual festival of the Lord in Shiloh” took place for it would make the “girls of Shiloh” available to the remaining wife-less Benjamites.
We see where the Israelites “instructed the Benjamites” to do the following:
“Go and hide in the vineyards and watch. When the girls of Shiloh come out to join in the dancing, then rush from the vineyards and each of you seize a wife from the girls of Shiloh and go to the land of Benjamin. When their fathers or brothers complain to us, we will say to them, 'Do us a kindness by helping them, because we did not get wives for them during the war, and you are innocent, since you did not give your daughters to them.'"
The scriptures tell us that the Benjamites did just what the Israelites told them to do with each man catching a girl at Shiloh and carrying her off to be his wife. Afterwards, they “returned to their inheritance and rebuilt the towns and settled in them”. Through some shrewd thinking and maneuvering, the problem had been solved with peace being restored within the nation of Israel. For we read where the Israelite people “left that place and went home to their tribes and clans, each to his own inheritance”.
So what can we take away from this passage today?
First, we need to realize that there is always the potential for dysfunction in families and be ready to deal with those dysfunctions when they occur.
Second, there’s always potential to rebound from our errors against a family member.
If Israel could have gone back and done things differently, then probably wouldn’t have wiped out all of the Benjamite women and children. In fact, they may have not wiped out all of the men either had they just stopped for a moment and considered what they were doing. Instead, they let their rage over the concubine’s rape get the best of them and instead of demanding justice over just those who perpetrated the act, then they wouldn’t have held the entire tribe accountable.
As for their part in the conflict, the Benjamites weren’t free of blame either. For when Israel asked only for the men who had committed the crime, all they had to do was hand them over. Their decision not to only inflamed what was already a tense and angry matter which resulted in needless bloodshed and loss of lives on both sides.
With this, we need to keep in mind that the way we respond and react to family matters, particularly wrongs that may have been committed against us, can either move the issues at hand toward resolution or further conflict, often time with dire consequences.
We should learn from this story and see that it’s far more beneficial and less damaging to just seek a path to reconciliation.
Third, we should always seek to move toward peace…preferably before things get too bad. Israel extended peace to the Benjamites…but only after they destroyed them. As I said, it would have been so much better had they tried to patch things up sooner. Ditto for the Benjamites.
We need to see that the sooner we move toward peace and resolution, the better.
Finally, and this is of the utmost importance, we should always seek God first when we are in the midst of a dysfunctional situation, seeking His perfect guidance so we can be sure we’re proceeding in accordance with His will. And we should do this even if the people we’re at odds with don’t do so themselves.
As we navigate these dysfunctional waters within our families, we need to do so remembering that the only glimpse that people sometimes get of the Lord is through us…through our actions and our words. This is why we need to let the Lord lead us and dictate what we do. For only He can bring function to dysfunction…peace to turmoil…and love to hate. All we need to do is to surrender to His way, understanding it is always better than our own.
Thanks be to the Lord for how He is the divine voice of reason in all matters…no matter how unreasonable they might seem.
Amen.
In Christ,
Mark
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